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I had an abortion 7 years ago and due to complications it has impacted on my ability to carry children to term in the future. It wasn't a decision I felt like I made, I didn't feel like I had a choice because I was 17, broken up with the father who moved away (who was older and I found out after we broke up), my family was still coping with two divorces and the fallout from that and I was in the middle of all my exams. I know I can be a good mother now but I have been diagnosed with PTSD and I still have so many issues and flashbacks. 

Sometimes I find it hard to see past me being a terrible person even though I know that now I am capable of giving more to a child when I have one.

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That sure sounds like a lot! Firstly, I'm sorry to know about all the pain that you're going through. There seem to be multiple things in your post that have been troublesome for you. This is a site to find silver linings for something that's bothering you. Could you point out any one issue for which you are searching for positive things?
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For example "How is life okay even when.... I have been diagnosed with PTSD" or "I feel like I am (or have been) a terrible person" or "I went through abortion and cannot have a child anymore (from your post it appears that this is not the case)" or "I had a bad childhood" or whatever else you want. Would you like to choose any one issue or leave it as it is?

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Even though I have been through a lot of problems as a kid, I have successfully survived through it all. 

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Even though I have had such a tough childhood, I am still someone who can be a decent mother.

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I had a childhood which was out of my control. I underwent an abortion, saw my family having two divorces, didn't receive the love of a father. However, on the plus side, all that bad phase is over. I am not living through all that extreme pain currently (even though I still have PTSD). Even though it is pretty tough today also, I can say that that terrible time is over.

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I had an abortion and cannot carry a child. However, on the plus side, medical science has advanced and there would be other ways to have a baby, if I really want.

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I underwent an abortion in my teenage years. However, on the plus side, perhaps it saved me from even greater pain. I went through so much pain on my own. Imagine how much tougher it would have been if I had delivered the baby and then all along seen the baby get hurt too along with me.

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I might not have a baby currently. However, this is not the end for me because I can still have the ability to do many other things. I can read and write, I can talk to people, feel their pain. I might have dents but as a human being, I am still functional.

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Having a PTSD is bad as a result of all this. But you never know, I might make a friend who also has PTSD and someone who understands me. The PTSD can actually be grounds to have a special connection with someone.

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Earlier, I wouldn't have said that I am capable of giving to a child. However, today I can say that. On the plus side, this means that I have become a better person today than how I was. I have improved or become stronger than before.

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