Am i a looser?

Question

I can not react truly at that moment when someone talks to me a bit threatening politely or seriously.

I react not like myself, i react like i'm tryin to escape that moment and situation. 

When someone talks to me sarcastic, i pretend that i am not getting angry but i do and i'm getting sad. I think the right word is "evade". I'm evading.

Am i a looser?

Answer 1

If you reacted like yourself in such situation, what would you do?

Comments

i would be really rude and bully and swear, because of that someone trying to be smart ass and giving advise to me with his little mind.
Yes i would be really angry as it appears in the comment.

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Ok. And if you were your perfect self, how would you like to react?

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i would answer extremely gentle and sarcastic way without allowing him to begin fight with me. i would like to make him regret to speak like that with a really gently and politely behaviour like a prophet. that's what my perfect self wants.

Answer 2

maybe you do that just because you dont want to hurn others or you want to protect youself，it doesn't means you are a loser

Answer 3

Maybe you have social anxiety? What you describe sounds like Social Anxiety to me. Take a look at the symptoms over here:

https://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder

Although many people suffering from S.A. get to know by their gut feel when they go through a list of symptoms like this. If you suspect that you have this disorder it might be a good idea to get a professional evaluation for it as well via either a therapist or online tests.